16th May 2012 . Private Bits Weddings

Wedding Chitter Chatter

I want a meerkat.

A couple of days ago a bride-to-be called Charlotte got in touch to say how much she liked the blog and to comment on how similar our wedding style was. I was at Port Lympe Animal Park at the time, taking pictures like the one on the right (until my battery died with 3/4 of the park left to go… bugger), but was rather pleased to receive such a lovely email.  This simple piece of communication made my heart soar for a couple of reasons which I wanted to share with you today…

1. It is WONDROUS to hear from people who are reading, and more importantly, liking what they read on The Utter Blog.  Site stats are a useful and interesting way to keep up to date with how many people are reading your blog, and in particular what posts they are being drawn to, but unless people get in touch it remains a complete mystery who is reading or why.

It’s a funny old world writing a blog. I can put hours in to a post which gets no response at all; no ‘likes’, no comments, no retweets.  I know people are reading it (because the site stats say so) but the unexpected silence when you’re hoping for a flurry of discussion can be a little, erm, pants.  On the other hand, the stats can surprise you by going through the roof on days when you haven’t even posted anything, such as happened to me yesterday.  Who were these people that stumbled across my blog?  Did they find anything of interest? Will they come back? This need to be ‘liked’ is one that I’m sure we can all identify with, and as such us bloggers spend most of our time trying to write pieces that will invite comments and further discussion.  It makes our day when someone reaches out across cyber land and extends a virtual hand.  So don’t be shy; come say Hi!

2. The second reason my heart soared when reading Charlotte’s email, and the main point I wanted to make today, is this…

Finding someone to do the Wedding Chitter Chatter with is ACE.

“I’m thinking of having a photo booth.” (Image via Pinterest)

Hands up if you’re a bride-to-be who simply answers “fine, thanks”, when asked by a friend or family member how the wedding plans are going, because you’re aware that the poor person who has innocently asked is going to die a slow and painful death inside if you open your gob and start talking?


The fact is that when properly invited, I know that from now until the 25th May next year I will always be able to open my mouth and let out the many ideas/decisions/logistical nightmares that are swirling around my head at any given time.  Ask me now, for instance, and my words would simply go like this:

Nearly a year to go still totally excited why haven’t the caterers responded to my emails yet round tables or long whoop I love my photographer must send the contract back can’t wait to get my save the dates crap now we have to decide who to send them to am I really going to have evening guests when I always said that would never happen what if the weather is like this this time next year… etc etc.

But they don’t want to hear that.

Ask a fellow bride-to-be, however, currently planning a (scarily similar) wedding for around the same time next year, and the floodgates of Wedding Chitter Chatter Land are well and truly opened.  I’m talking emails of epic proportion, squeals of delight as we share and compare notes, and a pair of boyfriends who watch on with bemusement (and then shout at you to get off the laptop… or is that just me?).

Yes, it is fun to find someone on the same wavelength as you to talk incessantly about weddings with, and I encourage all you brides-to-be out there to do the same. Easier said than done, eh?  Well then click on that Contact form at the top of the page and get in touch with me! There is plenty of me to go round and I can honestly talk wedding planning all day.  Sad but true.

And if anyone has stumbled across this blog looking for something and not quite found it… pop a note in the virtual post and let me know.  The Utter Blog is primarily the utterings of my own wedding planning ‘journey’, but I want to inspire as well. (Although ‘fringe porn’ seekers, you can stay away- unless this satisfies your needs I’m afraid I can’t be of any more help.)

And now I must go to the gym in an attempt to work off the mountain of Ben & Jerry’s I ate last night (currently half price at Sainsbo’s- well it would have been rude not to).

‘Til next time,

Sama xxx

Sama x

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5 Responses to “Wedding Chitter Chatter”

  1. charlotteelborough

    Eeekk, so excited that I’ve inspired a post! Its really is lovely to have found a likeminded, wedding obsessed bride-to-be to share all of my pent up wedding chitchat with.

    I must admit that it took me a while to get the nerve to send you a message – I think I was worried that it would come across a bit stalkerish (I may have just made a word up) and I was a little concerned that I would sound silly.

    I guess that might be how others who read your blog anonymously feel? Has anyone else felt that they really related to a blog or post but not had the confidence to comment?

    I think it would be great if we could get some bride discussions started – if you’re out there don’t be afraid to join us!

    P.s. I totally got told off for being on my iPhone last night!

    • theutterblog

      Go Charlotte, instigating a ‘bridal discussion’ on the blog! And thank you for posting on Facebook- great stats today! 😉
      I can honestly say that ‘stalker’ didn’t even cross my mind when reading your email- it was just so nice to receive. You never know what can happen once you’ve plucked up the courage! Xx

  2. Natasha

    I must admit, I am usually *that* person who spends hours reading blogs without the confidence to comment on them – so this is a first! I have just under a year to go until I get married and so naturally spend almost every waking hour thinking/talking/dreaming about the details of the big day. So when someone asks “How are the wedding plans going?” I’m pretty much bursting to tell them all about it, and I will never tire of repeating myself over and over again to anyone who wants to know!

    However after the first time they’ve asked you, you meet up again a few weeks later and they ask again, you start to think that realistically they don’t really want to know, so I resort to the “really well thanks” response and leave it at that.

    I am very fortunate though in that one of my best friends (and bridesmaid) got engaged 3 weeks after I did, so we can literally talk/email/text weddings to each other all day, every day and never get bored or feel as if we’re boring the other – perfect! Our partners are also really good friends, so when we all meet up they just put us at the end of the table with a bottle of wine and leave us to it – perfect for them too!

    • theutterblog

      Natasha, I wanted to reply to you straight away when reading this but it’s been a busy afternoon at work and I’ve not had a chance. Thank you for joining in! It’s not so bad once you’ve commented the first time- you’ll be popping up all over the place now you’ve started, haha! So when and where are you getting married? I can’t wait to get to the ‘less than a year’ mark… only 10 days to go and then it will be REALLY exciting.

      That must be so nice to have a best friend who got engaged so close! One of my best friends (and bridesmaids) is getting married this August, but as such we’re a bit out of sync so it’s not quite the same. That and the fact she’s the most practical person in the world and had everything booked within the first month- she doesn’t indulge in the wedding world quite like I do! (Love you Lou!)

      Thanks for your comment xx

  3. Tan

    Sama sama sama…loving the blog and the chat…..I can talk weddings all day everyday….my problem right now is that I haven’t had the time to indulge recently….it makes me sad……bring on June half term and some serious wedding love xxxx keep up the good blogging work xxxx


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